Had it ever happened to you, when you interacted with someone and after that interaction, there are still some words, actions, character, behaviour, or emotions, inside your mind, that is bothering you.
You keep thinking about that stuff and even if you're not thinking, your mind keeps nagging you somewhere like, "Hey bro! what? don't you even care what just happened? are you even going to do something to solve that shit? Hey! hey! we can find out something, let's talk"
Lmao, tell me what comes to your mind in the comments.
If thinking about such shits can really solve the problem, we don't even have to think about that again. Agree?
That's not the solution for us believe me.
Being an introvert and highly-sensitive person, I have struggled so much with this for almost 10 odd years. I have tried so many things to come out of that but failed miserably. Today, in this blog, I will be sharing my own method to bring peace and positivity instantly to your mind.
Sexy Disclaimer: Everything I write is my own understanding and it has nothing to do with anything. I am just a learner, who is learning and sharing what I actually feel like. Anything I say or write is not backed by any scientific research. Although I am trying really hard to make some time to reach out to NASA to research about my studies, just not getting enough time. Kindly bear with my words.
First we have to understand why we overthink. Every one of us have energy, it doesn't matter if you are an extrovert or an introvert. Now, the way that energy is expressed, is what makes an introvert different from the extrovert. The energy expression of an introvert is internal while an extrovert expresses their energies externally.
The introvert's energy usually flows internally, and they will rarely throw or reflect it outwards. Being very still and calm at a moment, there are lots of thoughts usually happening in the mind of an introvert. To be very honest, they are actually noticing and observing the most out of any moment.
Hence, as a habit, the mind of introvert usually needs something to think about. If you don't give them good things, it will find shit things to think over, and that's it, there is no data science.
That's why I started reading, because it gives me many other things to think about. Otherwise I was usually thinking something like, why Shweta has said "Hi" to me twice? Did she see me kidnapping her neighbour's kid? and, what the hell is wrong with Ankit, how can he refuse to come with me to watch... construction of balcony in my house.... maybe he's jealous, why he is jealous man!!, I thought he was my best friend.
Any ways, when a friend in need a friend indeed, we all know that.
Now let's just quickly, get to those 3 magical sentences.
Before disclosing those, I would suggest to you to understand the essence of those sentence by putting some thought in them and once you have done that, those 3 sentence will act like a super shield and life saver, I bet. I have shared it with my many friends and they love it, now it's your turn.
Now, to get rid of that, just reminds yourself these thoughts:
1. It has nothing to do with you
Any action, word, behaviour, and character of other people has nothing to do with us. It is their and will remain their only. So don't take it personal and leave that to them. This applies to both positive and negative ones and both are out of your control and have nothing to do with you, it's theirs. Hence, don't stress about having or not having that, it's not yours even if they give it to you, that's their fucking energy, that's it.
Example: Aman said, "Yash, you are a good person." - Now, in such cash Yash have only two options either accepting it or Rejecting it.
Accepting: Yash accepts that he is a actually a good person
Rejecting: Yash didn't accept that because he knew that Aman said that out of multiple reasons like he is in a happy mood, he is feeling good, he got some good vibes, his crush said yes for a date, or Yash helped him in anyway so he is return the vibes back, etc. That's why he just wanted to share that happiness with others too. It has nothing to do with Yash.
Here I am not saying that, everyone will lie to you and they are not honest but believe me 99% of the time they are not and that's the whole drill, if you know, you know.
Similarly, if someone is behaving bad with you, there might be multiple reasons for that which in 99% of the cases has nothing to do with you. If you are really an introvert, try observing their energy when they do so and you will see. When person A says something bad to person B, and B got offensive or anger, then that's the issue with B which has nothing to do with A. Also, if B can understand that, whatever A said, is actually has nothing to do with him, he can control himself better. The point here is that, no matter how difficult of stimulating an event is, we always have a choice. Independence and freedom comes when you are not in control of external events.
This thought is the most crucial out of 3 and the most weird to understand. Maybe for now you're not agreeing with me, but I bet that, after playing around with this thought for a while in reality, you will understand the essence of it. You will know that, everything is is our control actually.
Even I am not perfect in this, but I am learning and improving with it day-by-day.
2. They are just living:
They are just living their part of life and reacting the same way you will, if you are in their shoes, and even if they are not, they will learn somehow, you don't have to interfere in that. So let them live, why bother them or teach them how to live, when they are doing just perfectly fine and why even think about them. Just live and let them live.
3. You have nothing to do with it:
Don't even try to heal or correct someone out of that because they know how to do it too, just like you or otherwise they will learn. Any help in that case by your side will remain egoistic from your end and useless from their end. So stop being the savior of the world.
Final Words
Do try this once and don't be disappointed if it not works initially. Your mind will take time to adjust with this thought pattern, but if you keep playing with these 3 sentences often, you will start seeing results. Lastly, I would suggest that instead of overthinking upon events, just try thinking about the situation with these 3 sentences and every time you will find that, these sentences are damn true.